Walking the Talk

Why Honesty and Self-Work Matter in Coaching

It’s easy to assume that coaches have all the answers. But here’s the truth: I don’t profess to know everything - and that’s actually a big part of what makes me an effective coach. Real, lasting growth is a journey, and I’m still on it myself. For me, self-work is an ongoing commitment, not a one-and-done deal. In fact, I invest both time and money in my own coaching because, without it, I wouldn’t be practicing what I preach.

Practicing What I Preach

One thing I’ve come to believe deeply is that you can’t guide someone somewhere you haven’t been willing to go yourself. That’s why I’ve worked hard to find tools and techniques that truly resonate for me. These aren’t just things I read about in a book or tried out in a virtual program - they’re strategies I use, refine, and sometimes wrestle with in real life. My own coach has been instrumental in helping me put these tools into action, and I know that simply reading about them would never have had the same impact.

Why Your Coach’s Commitment Matters

When you’re choosing a coach, you want someone who’s walking the talk - someone who is still learning, growing, and committed to self-improvement. It’s not just about integrity; it’s about empathy and understanding. Coaches who are still on their journey know the challenges of putting techniques into practice, of overcoming setbacks, and of working through “hiccups” in confidence. In my view, this ongoing commitment is essential, both for me and for my clients.

What to Look for in a Coach

If you’re considering working with a coach, I encourage you to ask them about their own self-work. How do they practice what they preach? Are they invested in their growth, not just yours? Real coaching isn’t about shortcuts - it’s about a partnership in transformation.