Decisions, Decisions: Why Indecision Might Be Telling You Something
"I used to be decisive, but now I’m not so sure."
My mum used to say that all the time. Back then, I thought it was just a witty line. But now it feels like a mirror.
Indecision has been a prominent thread in my life. Should I say yes to that invitation? Do I take this opportunity? Do I eat the dessert or the salad? (To be fair, with that dilemma, I’d always say both… they balance each other out, no?)
For years, I questioned everything. Not just the big things, but the tiniest of choices. And then I’d double-back, wondering if I’d made the wrong call. The mental gymnastics were exhausting.
But what I’ve learned is that indecision isn’t always a flaw. Sometimes, it’s information.
When Second-Guessing Is a Sign
We often think that second-guessing ourselves means we lack confidence or clarity. But what if it’s a sign that something deeper needs our attention?
Maybe we don’t trust our judgment because, in the past, we’ve made decisions that didn’t turn out the way we hoped. Maybe we’ve been conditioned to seek external validation. Or maybe we haven’t given ourselves enough time to pause and listen to what we really want.
Second-guessing doesn’t mean you’re weak. It means you care. You’re weighing things up. You want to get it right. That deserves compassion, not criticism.
Reclaiming the Right to Change Your Mind
One of the most liberating lessons I’ve learned? You’re allowed to change your mind. We’re taught to make a decision and stick to it like our lives depend on it. But often, growth looks like making a choice, learning from it, and adjusting as you go.
We don’t always get it right the first time. And that’s okay.
Gut Instinct Is a Muscle
These days, I’m more inclined to trust my gut. That quiet inner knowing. It doesn’t always shout. Sometimes it whispers. But it’s rarely wrong.
When I catch myself spiralling into over-analysis, I try to pause and ask:
What’s really going on here?
Is this fear or wisdom?
If I already knew the answer, what would it be? (a question you may hear me ask in a coaching session!)
Gut instinct isn’t a magical power some people are born with. It’s a muscle. The more you use it, the stronger it gets.
Final Thought
If you’re in a season of indecision, know this: You’re not broken. You’re becoming.
Indecision might just be the space between who you were and who you’re becoming. A sign that you’re choosing with more care, more intention, and more self-awareness.
And that’s not something to beat yourself up over.
It’s something to celebrate.
