Your Confidence Didn’t Disappear… It Just Needs an Invite Back

Are you familiar with that feeling when you’re trying to get your confidence back, whether it’s after a fall, a setback, or a few too many “helpful” opinions from others, and you start wondering where it went?

Well, in actual fact, your confidence never really left. It just got buried under fear, fatigue, and feedback you’ve taken a little too personally.

In this week’s blog, I’m exploring how to rebuild self-trust, why feedback (even well-meaning) can sometimes shake us, and the mindset tools to invite your confidence back to the surface - both on the slopes and in everyday life.

1. Confidence Doesn’t Vanish - It Hides

Confidence isn’t something you lose; it’s something that retreats when it doesn’t feel safe.

Every time you fall, literally or metaphorically, your nervous system takes note. Its job is to protect you, so when you start edging toward something that once hurt (a ski slope, a presentation, a new challenge), it quietly whispers: “Let’s not do that again.”

That’s not weakness, it’s biology. The goal isn’t to push through fear, but to reintroduce safety so confidence feels welcome again.

2. When Feedback Feeds Self-Doubt

Ah yes, feedback. The word that can either lift you higher or send you into a spiral.

Even when it’s meant kindly, feedback can sting if it lands on a sore spot. Especially if you’re already questioning yourself.

What we can try is to separate the message from the meaning you attach to it.

Feedback is data, not definition.

Use it to refine, not to reinforce your self-criticism. To look at feedback as information you can use - without letting it become ammunition for your inner critic.

3. Rebuilding Trust: The Gentle Way Back

Confidence returns when you stop chasing it and start building trust in yourself again, one calm, consistent action at a time.

Think small wins.

One confident turn on the mountain. One honest conversation. One moment of self-kindness when you’d usually self-criticise.

Each of these moments is a vote of confidence, proof that you’re capable, grounded, and ready.

4. Tools That Bring You Back to Centre

This is where your mindset tools earn their keep:

EFT tapping to release fear and reset the body’s alarm system.

Reframing to see “mistakes” as messages, not verdicts.

Visualisation (or anchoring) to reconnect with the version of you who already feels confident.

Confidence isn’t built in a day - it’s remembered through repetition.

Closing thought:

You’ve built a lifetime of resilience, skill, and courage.

Your confidence hasn’t disappeared, it’s just waiting for permission to come home.