Lose Your Mind… Or Learn to Listen to It

When I first saw the title Lose Your Mind: The Path to Creative Invincibility, I’ll admit - I bristled slightly.

As a mindset coach, my first reaction was something along the lines of, “But I help people work with their minds, not lose them!”

However, the more I listened to author Josh Pais talk about his approach, especially during his interview with Chris Evans on Virgin Radio UK, the more I realised we’re actually saying the same thing. Just in very different ways.

The Control Illusion

The personal development world is full of advice like:

“Control your thoughts.”

“Conquer your fear.”

“Master your mindset.”

And yes… that last one hits close to home. My own theme includes Master Your Mountain, but let me explain.

For me, “mastery” has never meant domination. It’s not about controlling every thought or emotion. It’s about partnership, learning to work with your mind, not against it.

Because the more you try to control your thoughts, the louder they tend to get.

Feel It, Don’t Fight It

Josh Pais’s work is all about presence - about using every emotion, every doubt, every nerve as fuel instead of friction. He argues that the real problem isn’t the voice in your head… it’s the way you listen to it.

That got me thinking. Because it’s exactly what I see in my clients, especially skiers rebuilding confidence after a fall.

They try to “think” their way calm: Stay focused. Don’t be scared. Don’t fall.

But their nervous system is already on high alert, and the more they fight it, the worse it feels.

That’s where tools like EFT come in, not to silence those feelings, but to acknowledge and release them safely.

The Real Kind of Mastery

You don’t master your mountain by conquering it. You master it by understanding it, by learning when to lean in, when to pause, and when to let go.

The same goes for your mind.

Confidence isn’t about eliminating fear. It’s about creating enough space to feel it, hear it, and still move forward.

So, Should You Lose Your Mind? Not quite. But you can lose the habit of battling with it.

Because control doesn’t create calm… presence does. And the moment you stop trying to conquer your mind, you start understanding it. That’s real mastery.

Closing Reflection

So maybe we’re all saying the same thing, just with different language. Josh Pais calls it losing your mind. I call it listening to it differently.

Either way, the result is the same: More presence, more peace, and a version of confidence that can weather any slope, storm, or self-doubt.