Say It Differently, Feel It Differently

A simple shift in language can completely change your mindset.

I’ve been reminded this week just how powerful our words can be.

Not the big, dramatic ones, the quiet, everyday phrases we repeat without even noticing.

• “I can’t handle this.”

• “I’m rubbish at that.”

• “I always mess this up.”

Those throwaway lines might feel harmless, but they carry weight.

Because our brain listens, and believes what it hears most often.

The Power of Reframing

In one of my coaching sessions this week, we explored the idea of reframing, consciously shifting the language we use to describe a challenge.

Reframing doesn’t mean sugar-coating reality or pretending everything’s fine. It simply means choosing words that keep your mind open, rather than shutting it down.

Instead of:

“I can’t handle this.”

Try:

“This feels hard right now, but I’m learning how to handle it.”

Same situation. Completely different message to your nervous system.

Why It Works

When you tell yourself “I can’t,” your body responds as though danger is near, heart rate rises, muscles tense, focus narrows.

But when you reframe with curiosity, “This is helping me get stronger,” or “I’m figuring this out”, your brain softens its threat response.

Suddenly, learning feels possible again.

This isn’t wishful thinking; it’s neuroscience.

Your language tells your body whether to prepare for threat or growth.

On the Slopes (and Beyond)

I see it all the time in skiing.

A tiny reframe, from “I’m terrified I’ll fall” to “I’m focused on staying balanced”, can completely change how someone moves.

It’s the same in daily life.

“I have to do this” becomes “I get to do this.”

“I failed again” becomes “That didn’t go as planned, what can I learn for next time?”

Each shift invites patience, possibility, and self-compassion.

This Week’s Invitation

Pay attention to your language.

Notice when you’re being harsh, absolute, or self-critical, and ask: “Is there a kinder, more helpful way to say this?”

It might feel small, but that’s where transformation starts.

Because when your words change, your world follows.

Takeaway Tip

This week, try swapping one word:

Instead of “I have to,” say “I get to.”

Then notice what changes - in your energy, your motivation, and your mindset.

Closing Reflection

Reframing is like adjusting your stance on the slope. A tiny shift in weight that suddenly brings balance, flow, and freedom.

The terrain hasn’t changed.

Only your perspective has.